April 12, 2023 | By Gabriella Artini
We have to make a distinction between unconscious and conscious sexuality.
The first one has the following characteristics: it is limited, it’s formed as a byproduct of every kind of indoctrination we have been subjected to (cultural, religious, physical, social, etc.) and it is determined and influenced by factors that are external to us.
Unconscious sexuality can be enjoyable in the physical body, but it often leaves us with a sense of un-fulfilment and lack of depth.
It can lead us to destructive paths such as sex addiction, extreme and dependable use of pornography, promiscuity, extreme sex practices and ultimately lack of sensitivity and sexual appetite. It can also lead to sexual dysfunctions and deep states of depression.
Choosing to wake up to conscious sexuality is not just a step towards gaining a set of techniques and more pleasure, but a necessary evolution towards a healthy, natural, healing and deeply fulfilling intimacy that spontaneously re-centers us in integrity and alignment with life and its natural cycles.
Conscious sexuality starts with unlearning everything we think we “know” about pleasure and love making.
It starts with a new set of eyes, which we call “baby eyes”. Curiosity, a sense of adventure and openness are the foundation of this new journey. We let go of the limitations of “knowing” and we exchange them for the infinite potential of mystery.
It starts with a new mindset as “the body follows thoughts”. This important step not only allows for a sexual rebirth, but sets us up to come from the source of our being, rather than from the very limited self that has been built from the interpretation of our experiences.
Our bodies have unlimited potential to experience and give pleasure. There is no sexual dysfunction or sexual trauma that is permanent and can’t be overcome.
Every human being can and has the birth right to experience pleasure and orgasmicness with no exception and without a doubt.
The element that connects us with everything else and everyone else is Energy. We are made of an invisible force of power that can move mountains and will move anything that needs to be moved inside of us.
Pleasure is energy moving like a river of love that showers us from the inside out.
Energetic lovemaking is connecting two humans from the energetic source of their beings, what many would call their higher selves in energy form. It’s an electrical exchange of information that is deeply stored in the most recondite places of our nervous systems and other organs and it’s ultimately the profound and sacred felt experience of unity with the other. It’s a combination of a physical and a spiritual phenomenon.
This spiritual exchange can’t take place without the combustion of love.
I refer to Love as the dimension we can always tap into that is translated through the higher intelligence of our hearts.
Going unconscious sexually happens when we disconnect our heart from our sexual being and sexual experience.
The problem with this is, we can’t really disconnect parts of ourselves. What we do is numb out our emotional body, pushing down our emotional intelligence and pretending it’s not there.
This, not only allows self-abuse to occur by shushing the felt sense of our boundaries, but it also greatly limits our capacity to feel a deeper pleasure that heals and deeply nourishes us.
That’s why this kind of sexuality leaves us feeling empty and unhappy. Instead of healing, it creates more distance between us and our inner truth, even potentially leaving us damaged.
What most of us ignore is the importance of consciously choosing our sexual partner.
A sexual interaction always implies an exchange of body memory, a download of information stored in our bodies, which, especially through sexual intercourse, gets impressed on us.
In the Indian culture the memory of the body is called Runanubandha.
Indians knows very well that accumulating too much memory in the body leads to dysfunctions in the system.
Our body-consciousness functions thanks to a very precise and subtle technology that, if overwhelmed with external information, can create symptoms of strong discomfort and even disease.
We must be aware of this important information when we choose a sexual partner.
If we don’t, we can do unnecessary harm to our mental, emotional, physical and even sexual well-being.
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"Our bodies have unlimited potential to experience and give pleasure. There is no sexual dysfunction or sexual trauma that is permanent and can’t be overcome."